Family

Much lost in today’s world is the sanctity of the family unit and the home to which they create for themselves. The health of the family is the health of the individual members, and the relations each has to each other. The home is the primary means of development for the family. It is both the nourishment and protection against the competing wills of the outside world. To which, much of this rests upon the father, creator, and leader of the unit.

There is an ordering between husband and wife that proves the greatest conduit for a sacred family and home life. However, both husband and wife should equally be developed to a degree within themselves that allow for such harmony in the joining of another. For, it is the state of our spirit, broken or strong, developed or undeveloped, that calls for the pairing of another – whether that other is of complimentary or opposing nature.

An opposing relation between mother and father is a poor home, and likely worse family unit. This creates conditions of fear, anger, resentment, and separation. In this separation lies opportunity for malign forces to enter, affecting the most vulnerable – the children. Rather, the merging and complimentary spirit between husband and wife creates peace, love, trust, and connection. This creates a degree of protection from the ill-wills that beg upon the destruction of the family. The creator of the unit, the father, is rightfully tasked with this responsibility when he searches out for a mate and partner.

A competent man must be able to understand how he and his chosen mate are relating to each other. Is it an opposing relation? Is it complimentary? What is attracting me to this person? The answers are within rather than without. It is appropriate to place majority of the responsibility on the man in this regard. By the nature of the arrangement, the receiving party is sought after. This requires responsibility on the party leading the advancement for that they seek to create. By his nature, much is due of man.

At the foundation of all action, inaction, and attitude of such, is a will of spirit that must be accounted for. Leaving nothing to the winds that blow of the world, the father is primarily responsible for overseeing this process as well. This is correct given his respective position in the unit as the creator and leader of such. Furthermore, it is appropriate given the biology of man to account for those he oversees in this way. Differing from that of the more empathetic and soft nature of the woman, man is the bearer of justice, strength, and thus protector of vulnerability. Regarding this sacred process over the family, decisions are best made with great intention and routinely assessed for their effect on the home. A competent father must be able to set direction, establish boundaries, and look ahead to the effect different influences are having on his family. This allows for greater aspects of his wife’s femininity to develop in the blossoming of the home, complimentary to that of her husband. When created correctly the home acts as both a place of nourishment and protection against the outside world. The heart of the home is established.

A free-for-all home is a sure path to destruction. The man of naïve, uninformed, or uncaring spirit is equally to blame for the corruption by which either of these defects may cause. The responsibility is full in which man creates and thus leads. The man that makes excuses for his poor leadership was never fit to lead the development of another in the first place. That same man would happily take the recognition if, by chance, things turned out well despite the poor conditions afforded by himself. This is a falsity. There is great responsibility in the creation of the family unit. Man is due respect in this way for the responsibility he assumes. Intrinsically, those of the more vulnerable position understand the need for order and seek it in the home. A developing child yearns for structure in so far as they and their development be the greatest focus of attention. Little does the developing mind know, it is their development at the center of their attention seeking habit. Wife relies on her husband in this way.

The competent mother understands that disorder brings on chaotic circumstance. At the least, she is required of this for her position of authority. A woman undeveloped to this degree is equally unfit for her position as the naïve, uninformed, or uncaring father mentioned previously. On the contrary, the responsible mother can see beyond the wills that tug on her empathetic and sensory rich nature. She rests upon the attachment of her husband for much of this direction. And with the wisdom of restraint, she allows for herself the rightful attachment of her children and thus the protection of their souls. This is a great role the mother is entrusted with. From this and with this, the heart of the home comes to be.

While the father holds majority of the responsibility in this creation, and thus respect due, it is incorrect to assign greater significance to the man over the woman. We are correct in this because it allows for the greatest contribution of unit members, integrity in the family's advancement, and protection from unjust developments of the ego. Equally, this is just in that one cannot exist without the other in the creation of the family unit. This is the beginning of truth. Let us take inventory of ourselves in this pursuit. And, by means of development, afford for our family the greatest opportunity at the sanctity of such.